Yesterday was a swim day with my kids. I had one of my girlfriends, affectionately dubbed as one of my homegirls over, with her kids. We had in the past always gotten together to “do lunch” and catch up on all the latest gossip, at least once a month. Well we haven’t managed to get together for quite some time now, nearly 4 months to be exact! The rest of our lunch buddies, some of them, I haven’t talked to for five months! Time flies when...time just freakin’ flies!
So by the time that Jenny walked thru my front door, we had tons to catch up on! Jenny is eight months pregnant, and I enjoyed taking tons of pics of her, and her growing baby/belly, as well as her adorable kids. In between trying to catch up on the rest of the home girls. Overall it sounds as if everyone is doing well. Some information I got via emails from the girls, but usually the “juicy” details are left out, set aside for face to face dish sessions over a Cosmo.
But this story, blew my mind, and had me laughing. Cuz seriously, you would think this was a lifetime movie, not reality. “L” had been seeing a married man off and on for quite a few months. She met him on a dating site, where his status had been listed as “separated”. They saw each other for a while, eventually becoming intimate. And L fell hard! She was falling in love with him. He was attentive, fun, and “skilled”. Of course that’s when he came clean about his married and never been separated status. She continued to see him, but now there was the dark cloud hanging over the relationship. My last email from L stated she was no longer seeing him, the events that precipitated the break were not elaborated on.
Now for the rest of the story. L and Mr. Right Now, went out on his boat one lovely Saturday, knowing that he was supposed to meet his wife late in the day. The wife put in an early appearance, and caught Mr. Right Now and L together on his boat. From what I gathered the usual drama that you would expect from such a gathering occurred. L backed away, as you would expect. But…
the wife after some time to let the realities sink in, came to accept what happened, and contacted L via email, wanting to get together with her. (At this point, I would have been relocating to another state, changing my name, and never looking back. But I’m a coward that way.) I don’t have ALL the details, of how this next chapter transpired. (L, we HAVE to do lunch! I want the gory gooey details!)
Mr. Right Nows wife, now wanted to accept L not only I assume as friend, but as lover as well. As in, if you can’t beat em, join em! She wanted to allow for L to continue to “see” her husband, but WITH her. As in 3-way. From the details I gathered from Jenny, this more then a little freaked out L. Mr. Right Nows wife electronically (email) stalked L for a little while trying to convince her the merits of such a “relationship”. Of which L wanted no part of. Mr. Right Now it seems didn’t mind the idea, and so has turned into the ugly toad that he is.
I do feel bad for L. She is a wonderful and fun woman, who like so many of us past and present is looking for a relationship, that makes her happy. Not an easy task, when you realize just how many frogs are masquerading as Princes. I believe and have said my prayers that L finds what she wants in life, in a relationship. I know eventually, she will. But this couple? I hear is out looking for the 3rd party for their ménage `a trois.
I smell a cheesy lifetime movie in this twisted turn, L. How’s your script writing skills?
This did get me wondering, just how many people have dated supposedly single princes (or princesses) that turned out to be very married. I have heard this is very common on the internet dating sites. As well as out and out bold face liars on so many different levels.
My own story, was of a liar who put a very hazy, dark picture of himself on the dating site, half laying down, propped on an elbow. He listed his height as 6’1”. When we met for our first meeting dinner date, I didn’t recognize him. For good reason. At 5’10” tall, height on the dating sites was something I always checked out. The top of this mans head, reached my boobs, at best. Now I have dated men shorter then me before. With relatively few problems with it, if any. What got me was his bold face lying. I was embarrassed for him! How could you lie so blatantly, and still arrange a meeting? On the upside, at least his status of liar was revealed rather quickly.
And yes, I did the gracious thing and sat thru the whole meal, before making my exit for good. (Gracious, or pansy ass?) Any horror stories out there, about misleading frogs, claiming to be Princes or Princesses? If there is, tell me bout it! I wanna know… Nothing turns a horror dating story, into a comedy, like putting it in writing for the world to see. Reveal the frogs for what they really are.
And for keeping the record straight, I too, played the role of frog on occasion. I was on the dating sites, listed as separated, even though we still resided in the same residence(although not the same bedroom). And yes, I had a few dates with another man, who very much had a problem with my status listing. But I’m not after confessions (you can save those for your own blog) 
So if you have a dating nightmare story, past or present, share it with me. I just LOVE these stories!
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