I know how you feel. I moved away from my family too. The issues just followed me here. Keep your chin up and blog, blog, blog. It really is cheaper than therapy!
I understand what you mean by not having established healthy boundaries. It took me years of therapy to start making moves in the right direction, and I am still not always there. Hope your trip to NY provides a little fun and relief!
Amen! I got to the point, maybe after my divorce, of not allowing people to cross my boundaries b/c I foudn that i was more frustrated and unhappy otherwise. It’s kind of awkward sometimes with my new dude, Ted, because we have such different interpretations of boundaries and where they should fall—with others (not with each other). I feel like I’m continually having to point things out where people are out of line and I’ve had to tell him that I will no longer allow others to impact my life or relationships.
So much of this resonates with me. You are incredibly strong, which you have shown us time and time again, and I know it’s hard, but YOU are worth the effort - protect yourself, do what feels right, let in the people who are worthy of you.
I know how you feel. I moved away from my family too. The issues just followed me here. Keep your chin up and blog, blog, blog. It really is cheaper than therapy!
Good for you! Sometimes you got to do what works the best for you.
We are so alike in so many ways…
I understand what you mean by not having established healthy boundaries. It took me years of therapy to start making moves in the right direction, and I am still not always there. Hope your trip to NY provides a little fun and relief!
Amen! I got to the point, maybe after my divorce, of not allowing people to cross my boundaries b/c I foudn that i was more frustrated and unhappy otherwise. It’s kind of awkward sometimes with my new dude, Ted, because we have such different interpretations of boundaries and where they should fall—with others (not with each other). I feel like I’m continually having to point things out where people are out of line and I’ve had to tell him that I will no longer allow others to impact my life or relationships.
Have a great time in NYC!
So much of this resonates with me. You are incredibly strong, which you have shown us time and time again, and I know it’s hard, but YOU are worth the effort - protect yourself, do what feels right, let in the people who are worthy of you.